I asked dijana whether she had anyone to talk to and she said no. I asked why she didn’t have any friends and her response to me was “I had a friend once but lloyd didn’t like her”.
This comment right here tells me a lot about their relationship. It's insane that while she lived there for most of her life and speaks the language, she has no friends. Sure, JWs play a part in that but there has to be someone she knows. Looks like Lloyd took care of that. Manipulative and abusive men will always fight tooth and nail against a woman developing friendships primarily because they are going to be the first to notice this. The best way to control someone is to isolate them and I think Lloyd has her right where he wants her. Alone, no friends, stuck with two kids and her elderly parents are her only outlet. Being single with two young children is exactly the ball and chain threat Lloyd needs.
You also stated that Dijana was neutral about you coming out with the info. I doubt she's stupid and well knew what this would mean for Lloyd. I take that to be an ambivalence on her part - She felt Lloyd was out of control and this would neuter him, yet she also didn't want to throw everything into disarray whilst doing it. I think she has carefully stayed away from this due to fear of her husband, his temper and the stupid things he might do in retaliation had she been the one. She also doesn't mind seeing his power trip end.
So Dijana told you she was divorcing him? When did you hear that? Any other details about hiring an attorney, etc?